Having a threesome can be an exhilarating experience It can also be a recipe for disaster. So how then, is a couple supposed to know if it’s right for them? There’s a lot of things to consider when embarking on the journey of a threesome. Some people fear such a big step and others think, well it’s just sex with one more person involved so what’s the big deal? To those folks I say, Plenty! It takes a strong couple to get involved in a
threesome.

There are so many emotions involved that if things are not planned out and discussed ahead of time, one or both of you could be in for a big surprise, and not a good one either.

Stability

One important requirement in having a successful threesome is having a stable relationship, meaning all partners involved should be happy with one another, trust one another and respect one another. If deep down you’re not happy in your relationship, a threesome is not going to fix it. If anything, it could end the relationship altogether. If you’re not happy, you need to fix your troubles first. Don’t ever get involved in a threesome to win back your lover. Do it because it’s something that you really want to do. Also realize that for some couples, this is a big step and once you take it, there’s no going back, which is why you should do it for yourself. There’s no placing blame and getting upset about your partner going through with it later. What I’m trying to say is make sure EVERYTHING in your relationship is in order. I realize that most differences that couples have can not be completely resolved, but it is important to learn how to live with them. So make sure things are “honestly” happy between you and your partner.

Communication

Communication is a must when including another person into your private, sexual play. Of course the communication is important when revealing this fantasy or idea with your lover, but it’s also important in planning and preparing for the big event. Now, I’m not just talking boundaries, we’ll discuss that more later. I’m talking about honest open, emotional communication with your lover. If you have any fears, let him/her know.

For example, many women have the doubts…..will she pleasure him better than me? Will she do something or offer something that I can’t? Instead of letting these issues grow, you need to communicate these things and put the fire out. That’s the kind of communication I’m talking about. Being able to honestly discuss your fears and concerns, because you will have some and it’s important that those fears be put to rest before that night. If not, the explosion could be of monstrous proportions.

Self Respect

Most of us have negative issues about ourselves, be it body issues, income issues, social issues, etc. We all have them and we all have to deal with them, but make sure that those issues don’t affect your self respect, especially if you’re planning on having a threesome with your partner. I put self respect in its own category because you and only you are responsible for how you see yourself in this situation. Yes, it’s important that your partner respects you, but if you don’t respect yourself, I think your view of things that night may be a little skewed. Body issues will affect your performance and your pleasure of the experience and unfortunately for you, that’s not your partner’s problem. It’s problems you created on your own. So take care of your own issues, so you can be confident in yourself and have fun.

Define Relationship

Putting things into perspective and looking at what the relationship is, honestly, can be very helpful. I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but I only referred to this third person as being involved in “sexual play” not “lovemaking.” I believe they are two totally different experiences.

This might also be a good time to mention that you may want to define your relationship with this other person. Is this person also a good friend of yours? Is he/she just a casual friend that you see for this type of play? Is this someone you want to hang out with out of the bedroom too? How close do you want to get with this person? Can they stop by on a whim or do you need some advance notification to prepare yourself?

Boundaries

Lastly, but not any less importantly is boundaries. You should define with your partner what your limits are. What kind of sexual play will be you experiencing? Are you going to go all the way or are you just going to go out and fool with around with each other? If another woman’s involved, is your boyfriend or husband going to have intercourse with her or is he just going to watch and pleasure himself? Or…are both women going to orally and manually pleasure him? It may not seem like a big deal but when you’re in the thick of it, it really matters.

Now that you have expressed and defined your boundaries with each other, it’s time to find out what that lucky third person had in mind. Don’t be afraid to come right out and ask. Everyone is involved in this to fulfill some kind of fantasy and it’s important to know what this third person, that you’ve both never been intimate with wants to get out of this situation. You also don’t want to overstep any boundaries that this person has. It will leave them feeling used and violated. So showing him/her that you care about them, also shows them how important they are. It also avoids any unpleasantness that would happen if his/her boundaries were overstepped during the event. This is another human being who has feelings and desires and deserves as much respect from you and your partner as you would want to receive from each other.

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